Recently I started a Face book Page - Adoption Triad Research. Go there now
and start following and participating. https://www.facebook.com/#!/AdoptionTriadResearch This
is for Birth Mothers, Birth Fathers, Birth Parents, Placed/ Adoptee, Adoptive
Parents, Mothers, Fathers. I made this site, Together RESEARCH. It's 2015 Folks.
It's time we as ADULTS share with great care and love. No BONES BARE please. I
want this RESEARCH to bring the TRIAD together. We can't fix what we don't
acknowledge! We can't move forward in what's the most important part of
ADOPTION, The Baby, the Child, They are the most important. Yet in my experience
of Counseling Adoptee's and also Being a First Mother myself. I know they hide a
lot of emotions deep inside that they do not share with their Birth Families nor
their Adoptive Parents, Which I really like to call their PARENTS. Because they
are the only PARENTS they know. I believe God only chose me to be the vehicle to
carry my bdaughter in the WORLD to provide her Now Mother and Father with the
family they desired to have. God creates families uniquely. It's biblical. Jesus
was adopted by Joseph. Moses was adopted by the Pharisee's.
I was recently ousted/ Told with great vigor that I was not WANTED on a I am
Adopted FB site. It was very sad, That the owner of the site lashed out at me. Telling me I had NO Idea what it was like to be ADOPTED!!!! Being a Birth Mother and Reunited for over 15 years now. I agree! I don't know. I was raised in my Bio-Family. It was a really awake up call to me. That besides all the statistics saying that Adoptive Children grow up with less problems then those raised by Single parents. Or Teen Moms. It really made me sad. To see that these Adult Adoptee's were in quite a lot of PAIN! Many searching for Bio Parents. Many Finding them being Rejected. Many with low self-esteem, Many that HATED being told that they were CHOSEN, The Adoptee didn't want to be CHOSEN, nor A gift! They just wanted to be LOVED like any bio child. They just wanted to know truths! That even to this day! I am appalled that Closed Adoptions make it like they were never born! No medical history.On and On. It's 2015 People! What you think worked then DID NOT. I am a advocate for Semi-Open Adoption. Why not Open you say. Well their is NO LAW that binds a Open Adoption. The Adoptive Parents can close that so called verbal agreement at anytime. As a Birth Mother of the Closed Adoption Era. I have paid a big PRICE for placing my bdaughter in 1981. I have had PSTD, Severe bouts of Depression. My bdaughter said in her own words, That it was a Celebration to her to reunite. But she hated when after a visit that she went to leave at the Airport I would Cry like a baby. It's the Primal Wound. I have it deeply. Because I am REAL. I am not denying that deep cellular pain that exist deep deep with in me. That will never heal till the Good Lord Brings me HOME to him. Only a Strong Survivor can Place and make an Adoption Plan for their baby, and only child as I did. It takes Great Selfless LOVE to place your baby with another family. A Birth Mother will do this at last result. Every time. Crisis! Only was my reason. She deserved a married two parent family, financially strong, She needed her Emotional, Physical and Spiritual needs all met. I needed to get my life back on track and together, Following a divorce.
We can not change the Triad unless their is open dialogue shared by the Triad. Being open and honest. Not on the attack. Just sharing and caring. For we all know that Adoption is very complex. Nothing about it is simple as an Agency or Private Lawyer would like you to believe. I for one went into Denial for years after placement. It was the only way I could handle what felt like a DEATH to me. Actually worst. For I knew she was out in the world. But WHERE??? Please go to the FB Adoption Triad Research page now. And way in.
Thank you, Lucy Franklin, C.P.A.C.
I was recently ousted/ Told with great vigor that I was not WANTED on a I am
Adopted FB site. It was very sad, That the owner of the site lashed out at me. Telling me I had NO Idea what it was like to be ADOPTED!!!! Being a Birth Mother and Reunited for over 15 years now. I agree! I don't know. I was raised in my Bio-Family. It was a really awake up call to me. That besides all the statistics saying that Adoptive Children grow up with less problems then those raised by Single parents. Or Teen Moms. It really made me sad. To see that these Adult Adoptee's were in quite a lot of PAIN! Many searching for Bio Parents. Many Finding them being Rejected. Many with low self-esteem, Many that HATED being told that they were CHOSEN, The Adoptee didn't want to be CHOSEN, nor A gift! They just wanted to be LOVED like any bio child. They just wanted to know truths! That even to this day! I am appalled that Closed Adoptions make it like they were never born! No medical history.On and On. It's 2015 People! What you think worked then DID NOT. I am a advocate for Semi-Open Adoption. Why not Open you say. Well their is NO LAW that binds a Open Adoption. The Adoptive Parents can close that so called verbal agreement at anytime. As a Birth Mother of the Closed Adoption Era. I have paid a big PRICE for placing my bdaughter in 1981. I have had PSTD, Severe bouts of Depression. My bdaughter said in her own words, That it was a Celebration to her to reunite. But she hated when after a visit that she went to leave at the Airport I would Cry like a baby. It's the Primal Wound. I have it deeply. Because I am REAL. I am not denying that deep cellular pain that exist deep deep with in me. That will never heal till the Good Lord Brings me HOME to him. Only a Strong Survivor can Place and make an Adoption Plan for their baby, and only child as I did. It takes Great Selfless LOVE to place your baby with another family. A Birth Mother will do this at last result. Every time. Crisis! Only was my reason. She deserved a married two parent family, financially strong, She needed her Emotional, Physical and Spiritual needs all met. I needed to get my life back on track and together, Following a divorce.
We can not change the Triad unless their is open dialogue shared by the Triad. Being open and honest. Not on the attack. Just sharing and caring. For we all know that Adoption is very complex. Nothing about it is simple as an Agency or Private Lawyer would like you to believe. I for one went into Denial for years after placement. It was the only way I could handle what felt like a DEATH to me. Actually worst. For I knew she was out in the world. But WHERE??? Please go to the FB Adoption Triad Research page now. And way in.
Thank you, Lucy Franklin, C.P.A.C.
