Happy New Year

Well we are about to ring in 2012.  I don't know about you but I so am looking forward to a better year for us all.  Better economy, Better HEALTH, and much Prosperity for us all!

Many New Years we all make resolutions.  My hope is that you if you recently placed a baby/or child for adoption with a family.  That you will focus on the reasons that you placed that Lil Gift from God with a family.  In helping birth mothers through post-adoption it is very important that you nurture and embrace your selfless GREAT LOVE for that baby, to as why you placed in the first place.  Don't let your grief get out of control.  Or last for YEARS on end.  I placed my bdaughter 30 years ago.  I still have moments that I tear up and cry.  I think that is the MOTHER in me.  Now I think they are HAPPY tears.  Tears of blessings!  That I was blessed to be chosen to be her birth mother.  God will never give you more than you can handle. 

Ways to get through grief-  Journal!  Journal! Journal!  Get those deep emotions out of your body and on to paper! Even if they sound crazy, even if they are full of anger, What ever the emotion JOURNAL it!  My belief is you can not heal by going around something.  You must dig deep and go to the dark part of the pain - through it and to the other side.  To see the the LIGHT that awaits you.  That light was my Jesus!  He walked with me, I never was alone.  I am never alone today.

Scrapbook- Make a scrapbook of the birth, all that pertains to the adoption.  Hopefully you had an open adoption.

Use all Available resources- If you find that you get seriously depressed seek medical professional treatment immediately.  Severe Depression, suicidal ideation.  There are many online wonderful birth mother support groups

Birthmom Buds

Sunflower Group

WWW.Birthmothersunite.com  Contact: Lucy Frankin, CPAC at

birthmothers@aol.com 

For a confidential free consultation for counseling. 

1-888-803-4956  She is trained to work with Birth Mothers Trauma / Post-Placement - Anxiety, Depression, Reunion, Healing.

Adopted Man Gets Box Of Christmas Joy From Birth Mother - Kansas City News Story - KMBC Kansas City

Adopted Man Gets Box Of Christmas Joy From Birth Mother - Kansas City News Story - KMBC Kansas City

Awesome story, Get out the kleenex's. :)

I did not put a new ornament on my tree every year as this precious birth mother did. But I did have one from the first year, that I still put up to this day.  It had her orginal birth name on it and birth date. It makes us feel whole and complete to have her on our family Christ-mas Tree.  I have been reunited with my birthdaughter for 11 years.  I feel very blessed that God answered my prayers with in 18 1/2 years of my placing her with a family.  Never under estimate his timing.  I thank him everyday for this precious LIFE that I was the vehicle to carry her for her now family. 

Dwell NOT ON THE PAST

With God All Things are Possible! Post- Adoption - Lucy Franklin, CPAC

I can remember like it was yesterday.  The emotions that I felt.  The bottomless pit.  The emptiness inside. The roller coaster daily I road of depression/ anxiety/ second guessing my decision to place my daughter with a family for adoption.  My heart was bleeding tears so loud that could not be heard, For out of love to my family and those that did not understand my sacrifice.  I bled eternal for the love of my "LIFE"  this Child that I bore for another.

What got me through the hardest part of this process was my strong Faith in Christ Jesus.  His promise Matthew 19:26  Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible.”

Once I got that scripture securely in my heart, soul, and mind.  I knew with out a shadow of a doubt.  That I would be okay, and most of all this "Child that I did bore for another Mother and family."  Was doing well,  this scripture proved true then, Also when she and I reunited in July of 2000.  It stands true today.  For she and I are both Christians.  He answered my plea and prayer for her and I to reunite.  We did, and are still in reunion.  She is my Blessing.  She I don't think even realizes the impact she has had on my "LIFE" she is my STRENGTH,  as is CHRIST JESUS! 

The stages of grief you will go through are the following:

Shock and Denial

Sorrow and Depression

Anger

Guilt

Acceptance

The steps to resolving your loss.  Is acknowledging the loss. 

If you just recently placed your baby for adoption.  If you are hurting.  Need help and support, or resources for healing your pain from post-adoption placement.  Visit http://www.birthmothersunite.com/ or contact us at 1-888-803-4956



Jesus Is the Reason for the Season

Merry Christmas from all of us at BMUBirthMothersUnite Blog and

www.birthmothersunite.com

ONE DAY AT A TIME

Explaining My Absence

Sorry I've been away for the past 7 weeks.  I had to have my left knee replaced.  It has been a long painful journey.  But I am very thankful for all my family and friends and MOST of ALL my HUSBAND for being a great caretaker!!!

Please keep me in your prayers.  As soon as I get stronger I will be back with more resources and blogs, on Adoption, Birthmothers, BirthParents. 

Happy Holiday's to you and YOUR'S.  Count your blessings everyday.  I have found that in Life when I am my lowest or think that I am, That God quickly reminds me of how much he LOVES me and HOW much he is right there beside me.  I have also found that LESS in life is MORE.  If I have quality relationships filled with LOVE, Respect, and most of all Christ Jesus.  Then I am very RICH.  A kind of Richness that I value more than MONEY. I am complete as long as I have my relationships in order with Christ, and Family and friends. 

Merry Christmas