No matter what stage you are in the adoption process, be it making an adoption plan to place your baby with a family. Or you have placed already, be it within days, weeks, or months. Just as you prepared an made the adoption plan. Remember to plan for yourself also. You are very important in this process. You will need to have a post-adoption support group in place for you. You will need to surround yourself by positive people that nurture you and let you grieve in a healthy way about the placement. Each placement will be different. But if you have studied adoption extensively as I have, I also being a birth mother, reunited now for 11 years. You will find comfort in talking and sharing and bonding with other birth mothers or birth parents. Because I have met so many people that THINK they know what it is like or have their own OPINIONS of what it feels like to lose a baby to adoption. When they DO NOT HAVE a clue nor KNOW. YOU would have to be us to know! Rather the placement was coerced by a parent many years ago, Rather it was a closed adoption. Rather you placed on your own free will, Due to a crisis pregnancy, or because you knew at that very time of your life that it would be for the best for the child at that time of your life. A responsible birth mother, or birth parent. Will make the ultimate sacrifice to make a plan and place their baby to have a two parent family and it's physical, spiritual, and financial needs met. I commend all my sister birth mothers for doing what they felt at the time was best. Remember you are important, You are more than your PAST! Each approaching day is a gift of opportunity and newness!
Check out these three sites I find full of resources for the birth mother or birth parents.
www.birthmothersunite.com/contact.html
Sincerely, Lucy Franklin, CPAC
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